I feel bad for even saying this, but my wife has put on an unexpected amount of weight and I hate it. She is very sensitive and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I've already tried the whole "go to gym together" thing, but that never pans out, especially with our schedule. The crazy thing is she seems to be comfortable with her appearance. I'm baffled, because she used to care so much. What do I do?
The first thing you need to learn is how to accept your wife unconditionally. People go through changes in their lives, both mentally and physically. Once you've overcome and accepted that, then we can move on to the next step of setting up an exercise regiment for you both to abide by. You have to play the leadership role of getting setting aside time for both of you to work out and make it fun, not a boot camp. Working out together can be one of the most productive ways of strengthening the bond of mind and body. Don't make it all about her. Make it a partnership. You don't want to make her feel like she is the only one trying to get in shape. Set goals for both of you and celebrate reaching those goals. In time, you will get her back to where you need her and you will benefit from it also. It's a win win situation.